THE PAUSE: love yourself, even if it's the only thing you do
edition 004 - when to have self compassion, the awareness of what we deeply need, and finding the right time to rest and then know when it’s time to reignite your action
THE PAUSE
have i said this to you before? because this is something on my mind daily..
you need to romanticize your life.
there’s nothing more romantic than making every moment of your life one that fills up your heart and offers you positivity. there’s a presence and slowness to it that feeds your soul.
☺︎ pause set aside 5-15mins today, turn on the shower to warm, or run a hot bath and clean every inch of your skin slowly and with intention. use this track.
☺︎ journal question what area of my life am i the hardest on my myself? can i find more softness here? - i am remembering i am learning and growing everyday.
☺︎ thought process i can make every moment of my life be a positive influence on me. even if it’s hard, there’s beauty in the lesson.
☺︎ daily habit cold water on your face ♡
☺︎ wellbeing challenge incorporate one vitamin supplement into your life that helps you to feel good about yourself + build your confidence in consistently taking it. i share my absolute fave that i’m sooo0o obsessed with at the moment in the weekly ‘something new’ section at the end of this email.
falling head-over-heels in love with yourself is the most intimate and empowering thing you will experience all of in your lifetime. the way you show up for yourself is how you get your motivation, your confidence, and your connection inwards.
when we had our mother figure tell us that everything was going to be OK, compiled with their unconditional love, it felt quite good right? knowing that you could never really do wrong - there was always someone looking out for your heart.
with our own compassionate inner talk, we can find our inner nurturer that allows us to cultivate deep pleasure and safety in life. just like mom did when we were small.
i’m sure there is a part of you that remembers what it feels like to tell yourself something negative - whether this morning or last week. and it becomes quite clear that you can’t feel safe when someone is always telling you that you’re doing wrong.
imagine this; every day, all day, someone is telling you something negative about yourself. you would start to believe it and think it to be unwaveringly true, right? i am ‘insert negative thought’.
well, no thank you. because not only does your head hear yourself, your heart does too.
to cultivate inner trust and confidence, we must love ourselves dearly with no judgement.
the a-type girlies and guys will get me on this one - because a-type means perfectionism. and perfectionism means critiquing all things to make them perfect, including your body, mind, and your actions.
so find the space in every day to remind yourself how much you love yourself. how absolutely fantastic you are - and wow - look at everything you have done in your life. you are radiant and loved and needed by the world.
in this month’s edition of the wellness trends report, i felt it was time to bring something controversial to the table - the connection between heart and body - and how the words we speak to ourselves are linked to the physical pain we can experience. upgrade to premium subscription, to get this edition as well as every month’s trend report and other exciting TRC content. (bi-weekly journalling and a community to mingle with!). view article here.
𐬺 everyday is going to hit a little different, and not everyday is going to look the same. we have days where we feel absolutely grounded and safe/on point - and others where we can’t remember if we put honey in our tea 5 minutes ago.
as maturing women, we are constantly in a 28 day cycle (roughly) of needs and desires. needing space, needing time, needing collaboration, or needing a party. for men, it’s a tad different as they have 24hr cycles - but they do not live consistently everyday with the next. we’re all at the mercy of our own energy levels and capacities.
there will be days that you absolutely need to rest and be with yourself, and others where you can’t sit still and you need to create and contribute.
lower energy days are the days to focus on embracing the most meaningful, most recharging and soul filling days you can create.
when it’s a low energy day, try this : ‘ok, i am going to use this day to sooooo intentionally rest and do things happily at a slower and less productive pace’. see how that sits. and make sure to not use the words ‘i should be doing…’ on these days. give yourself grace.
these are the times that our bodies and our minds need our self compassion the most. we need to recognize that deep desire for rest, and be a-ok with the pausing and slowing down. be in it.
higher energy days are what I really want to speak about - because magic comes on the other side of the low days. there’s an energy that is cultivated when you stop, relax, and then get back ‘into gear’. on higher days, there is a re-invigoration of your internal fire.
these days, the ideas that were percolated on in our rest days are wanting to be heard - and it’s time to put them into action and create all the things your body wants you to.
these higher energy days are always exciting and wild. they are the truth of ourselves, what drives us - what makes us as successful and as exposed to the world as we are. it’s the time to embrace and be grateful for the slower days - because those days got you here.
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𐬺 this week my fathers plane was struck by lightning, while i spent time tearing down my broken barn and setting the remnants of it on fire.
there’s a beauty in destruction, isn’t there?
as i stared into the (XXL) fire on my property and watched the barn wood burn, i thought about the moments before my barn collapsed when everything was completely peaceful and fine.
the silence in the trees, the wind blowing between the barn board, and the horses out in the paddocks that were slowly chewing at their hay. peaceful, easy living.
my father would have experienced the same - smooth air ways, about to come in for a landing back home in Toronto. ahhhhhhh. i’m home.
i remembered the conversation we had a few days earlier, where we discussed a big leap he took in his personal life (go dad!!), and i shared with him how i was also doing the same (here, with you guys).
when you take your chance, or take a risk, and leap into the scary thing - there will always be an opposing force asking how much you want it.
it’s the yin an yang of life. every force, has an opposing one (as my personal coach says when she holds up her yin and yang blocks for visuals).
well, why? it’s the universe asking up how deeply we want it. how absolutely fully we say YES to the things that are allowing us to break past out shells we’ve been living in.
what you want is just after the challenging thing. not in the getting-sucked-up-into-it and failing-to-continue-onward. so instead of allowing things to bring you down, or make you scared, or pause your forward momentum - continue to push on and find the inner motivation to continue failing forward, taking the risk, and putting yourself out there.
if you’re looking to push past your upper limit - i have a book that i will be re-reading (yea, re-reading after i just read it last month - - it’s that good) that i strongly recommend you read. read it with me.
♡ something new i’ve been taking as a young woman that is shifting my energy, my nervous system, and my health is this supplement. it is beyond delicious and surprisingly sweet, and it is completely plant-derived (meaning, fully natural ingredients with no additives). selenium is a mineral that is known to be low in many woman these days and it’s incredible for fertility, thyroid function, and reducing inflammation.
♡ something new i am using in my facials which is transforming my skin is using a high frequency device to zap bacteria and dirt. this one comes highly recommended for anyone who has redness or acne that they want to be able to eradicate - from home!!
rest until i see you next ♡
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